Love Nakia

Let’s talk self-pleasure (flicking the bean, fapping, finger banging, masturbation etc.) We all enjoy a little self-pleasure, or do we? Truth is there are lots of ladies who just don’t, rather it’s because its gross (to them), they don’t know how, its against their religion, or raised to believe it’s a man thing. Studies suggest that self-pleasure is healthy for everyone not just men. A lot of women are accustomed to men masturbating because of lack of sex or poor sex. In addition, there are many women who are simply taught that masturbation is only for men and that women should never touch themselves that way. Then there are women like myself, I say your home alone, DO IT! You’re taking a bath, DO IT! Your dude is on his way over, definitely DO IT! LOL. Do it whenever you feel like it for whatever reason, do that shit SIS!

Listen, self-pleasure is a part of sex to me. Exploring yourself teaches you about yourself, what you like, what your body responds to. It’s about getting in touch with yourself and learning intimacy. If you don’t know how to bring yourself to orgasm how will anyone else. If you have never given yourself an orgasm how do you even know you had one? Did you know that some women cannot have an orgasm vaginally? So, some of them are either faking it or they think they are having an orgasm and they aren’t. Meg said “I ain’t lying bout my nut, just to make a nigga happy” so if that’s you Please Stop.

I’m going to get into these benefits, I mean besides it feels good. 😊

• Relieves stress (hard day at work, DO IT)
• Better sleep (got insomnia, DO IT)
• Boost your mood (had a bad day, DO IT)
• Relieves menstrual cramps (Midol didn’t work, DO IT)
• Releases sexual tension (not dating and don’t want to call the ex, DO IT)
• Have better sex (teach that person exactly where to touch and how, DO IT)

Self-pleasure is a form of empowerment for women. We control our orgasm, we do not need a partner to get us there, we WANT a partner to get us there. Once a woman learns what her body needs to be completely pleased, she can unlock her desires. Self-pleasure for women is so taboo in the public eye. People don’t talk about it, and women who do it sometimes hide it (clearly, I’m not that woman). The truth is its just as normal as going to the spa, enjoying candle lit bubble baths, or binge watching some sappy rom-com. Self-pleasure is how most women discover their g-spot. We’ve all heard about it, but how many of us has actually found it and figured out what to do with it. The truth is not that many women have. Can’t find it if you don’t want to touch yourself. But once you do and you can direct your partner on where to go and what to do, it changes your life. Self-pleasure is a direct line to better sex overall. It doesn’t mean sex with your partner is bad. And it is not just for men.

Self-pleasure is self-care! Touch your flower, she deserves it. Use your hands or buy a toy. Seems embarrassing? Order online they deliver discreetly. Shit order from Amazon, comes in an amazon box and has 1-year warranty. Give it a go, understanding your body and what it wants and needs for maximum pleasure is important as a woman. It is ALWAYS clear when a man is pleased and thus most times sex is geared towards pleasing them and they still masturbate the moment they are alone. Society would have us believe that our job as women as it relates to sex is to please our men and have babies. We deserve to feel good, like really good not the fake good. Ask your man where your g-spot is (this is predicated on you already knowing that it is about 2 inches inside the top of your vagina  and it kind of has the same texture as the roof of your mouth lol). If he doesn’t know give him a demonstration! Enjoy your flower!