Love Nakia

A woman’s work is never done. We are natural born nurturers and 90% of the time we are raised to be caregivers and take care of the family not just the ones we create but the ones we come from. Never mind the goals and ambitions that we have for ourselves, because they don’t align with the plans that our elders had when they discovered they were birthing girls. We are taught to cook and clean before boys even learn to shower on their own. Why is that the societal norm for POC?

I recently decided to take a step back from being the “go to” person in my family. And I work hard to keep it that way because I had my own plans. I got a promotion, my new position came with more responsibilities and it requires much more time. I tried to be superwoman and keep up with the needs of everyone in my family and my own on top of work priorities. I got burnt out and I loss my shit a few times. I realized I had to create boundaries and release myself of some of the things I was doing for others and start putting myself first.

That release was refreshing and everything I needed. But of course my family was upset about the boundaries that I set. I was now the bad guy because I wasn’t readily available to them at the drop of a dime. I am no longer answering every call and text. I am quick to use my free moments on me before anyone else now, and I love it here. Shit I started writing this post in December and I put it down because it didn’t serve me at the time. It’s now mid March and I just picked it up again. I truly had to remember what its like to really put me and my needs first. I was just out here pouring from this empty ass cup and everyone was sip sip passing. Yea I’m done with that. I’m done with all if that and dine with watering myself down. A good friend told me she thought what I wrote would sound more like how I talked when I was with the girls and that statement has lived rent free in my head for months because I know I had been filtering my words and thoughts trying to preserve the way I was seen by everyone.

Make a to GROW list and put yourself first on the list. your goals, your plans. What’s important to you? Career, education, sport, family, kids etc. Life is meant to be LIVED! Go live it to the fullest, no regrets, no love lost. We are done with the woulda, shoulda, coulda, because WE DID it! Excited for my damn self!